I want to share the greatest gift with you.
But first, we gotta heal some wounds:
There are some things that we tell ourselves that really do a lot of damage to our marriage and our experience as stepmoms:
I wish my spouse didn’t have kids…
I never really wanted to marry someone with kids…
Wouldn’t it be nice if my spouse didn’t have kids….
They may seem really innocent – just wishful thinking, right?
The problem, though, is that these thoughts actually cause us a lot of pain – and many of us don’t realize this because we were never taught otherwise (and P.S. that’s 100% OK).
What’s happening though is that we’re arguing with our reality – and our minds really struggle with this – it’s like a torture of sorts.
We’re envisioning a future we can’t actually have with the person we love so much.
Because he or she actually has kids.
And those kids are a fundamental part of our spouses.
And when we really think about it…without their kids, our spouses might be totally different people:
Maybe less mature, less patient
Maybe less responsible
Maybe we would have never met and fallen in love in the first place.