I used to snap at my husband all the time.
I wanted to stop, but I didn’t necessarily know how.
Until I learned what was going on –
See, I would snap at him because I was feeling annoyed, or frustrated or irritated.
And instead of processing those emotions, I was snapping at my husband – about how he parented the kids, about the house being a mess, you name it.
To process my emotions is actually really straightforward –
It really just involves inhaling and exhaling slowly until I feel calm – instead of snapping.
And when I’m calm, I can have more effective conversations:
Instead of yelling at him to make the kids clean up, I’ll just ask his kids again, calmly, and set consequences if they don’t listen.
It took some practice but I am proud to say now that I rarely snap.
At him, or anyone else in my family.
I’m not superhuman – I’m just taking some deep, slow breaths.
This is available to you too if you want it – and it can literally save your marriage.