The Case for Love

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I have a confession to make. 

 

I used to think that loving my stepkids was so hard. 

 

And I had (and hey, still have) a lot of good evidence for why loving them was so hard – 

 

They’re SUCH difficult kids. They have all kinds of developmental and mood challenges. They’re hopeless with chores. They’re always fighting. They’re so needy… 

 

But then I realized that NOT loving them was actually HURTING me.  

 

Withholding my love only created MORE distance between us and LESS joy.

 

And so I made a different decision. 

 

I decided to become the woman who loved her stepkids unconditionally. 

 

I made the case for loving them despite their shortcomings. 

 

Because ultimately, that’s basically what my stepkids did for me. 

 

They did not choose me. But they accepted me – exactly as I am.

 

And they’re my family. And I love my family no matter what. 

 

Because even when it’s hard…  

 

Love actually makes things better – I don’t sweat the small stuff. And I get to feel more connected to my stepkids. 

 

And I promise you, if I can do this with all 4 of my stepkids, I know you can too. 


 

P.S. Want to know more? I created a free training to help you create better relationships with your stepkids and spouse. It's really good. Click the button below to watch.

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