Are you having a hard time with your stepkids?
If this is you, you’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you –
And if you want to improve your relationships, you can. Let me show you how through the story of one of my clients –
She came to me because her relationship with her stepdaughter was damaged.
They had a big fight, and things were never the same after that.
Her stepdaughter, who is 16, spent a lot of time in her room, or out of the house.
They weren’t communicating very much.
My client thought her stepdaughter was the problem – she’s not around, she doesn’t talk, she’s too difficult.
And I have no doubt that her stepdaughter IS difficult – I mean she’s a teenage girl.
But blaming her kiddo, or waiting for her to change, was never going to heal their relationship.
And, I let her know that there were a few simple tweaks she could make to build up more trust and connection, and break down the walls between them.
So, I showed her how to stop beating herself up for the big fight they had.
I taught her how to pause, and not react out of anger, or frustration anymore.
I taught her how to love her stepdaughter without conditions, and without becoming a doormat in the process.
She took what we discussed to heart, and applied it to her relationship.
Her stepdaughter spends a lot more time at home.
They connect and chat each night before she goes to bed.
When my client finds things like a vape pen in her stepdaughter’s room, she takes a deep breath and calmly addresses it with her spouse, and stepdaughter – instead of lashing out.
My client feels so much more peace, and so much less anger and frustration on a daily basis –
Not because she’s a special case, but because she decided to learn a few simple tools, and apply them in her home.
And what she cultivated is possible for you too.
You too can experience more peace, and joy in your relationships – no matter how strained they are right now.
And it’s easier than you think.