When I learned what happened, I felt like garbagePosted on June 18, 2021 So my husband realized it first. He called me into one of his kids’ bedrooms, and said:“Look, this child has been stealing things from you, and our other kids.” And I immediately felt like garbage. So, I spent a few days feeling like garbage – Blaming myself in my head – “If you were a better, more loving, more supportive parent – this wouldn’t have happened.” But then I remembered something I so often share with my clients: The only reason I felt like garbage is because of the way I was blaming myself. I was the cause of my own suffering. Sure, I don’t have to love the stealing. But I don’t have to make this child’s stealing behavior mean something awful about me as a parent, or a human. And soon as I remembered this, I stopped feeling like trash. And I felt ready to go back to loving this child, unconditionally – Accepting them exactly as they are, even when they do things to me I don’t like. Because that’s what feels good to me. (And yes, I’m still gonna buy a lockbox for certain special items ). P.S. Want to know more? I created a free training to help you create better relationships with your stepkids and spouse. It's really good. Click the button below to watch. YES! TAKE ME TO THE FREE TRAINING.