The simple secret to obliterating 2nd wife grief

Recently one of my clients was talking about how she hates being her husband’s 2nd…

It was his: 

 2nd wedding 

 2nd honeymoon 

 2nd time witnessing the birth of his child

She confessed to me that all of these major life milestones didn’t feel as important and exciting – simply because they had already happened for him once before.  

And thinking like this made her feel really sad, and unimportant. 

And it’s true – 

It was his 2nd honeymoon, marriage, child…

But more importantly, it was also THEIR…

 first marriage together.

 first honeymoon together.

 first child together.

And…she was forgetting another really important thing: 

 Second doesn’t mean BAD. 

And sometimes, second can be even BETTER than first. 

(Because well…her husband’s first wife cheated on him, and he’s now happily married to my client – his 2nd wife).

And so next time…when you start to feel down about being #2…

Just remember: 

 Second doesn’t mean it’s bad. 

 And second can be even better than the first.