An unusual threesome – dog, owl, happy marriage –

Do you ever feel so enraged that you just word vomit on your spouse, and stepkids? 🤬

If this is you, I want you to know you’re not alone.

And this happens to ALL humans.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

And the truth is…when you word vomit…you literally are out of control.

Picture this:

👉 In our brains we have an owl, and a dog (credit to the lovely Pam Howard for this analogy).

The dog’s job is to protect us from danger.

The owl is very wise and calm.

But if something scares the dog, the dog starts barking.

And the owl flies away.

👉 Translation: when we feel angry, frustrated, enraged…our rational mind has literally left the building.

BUT

👉 The good news is as adults… we can bring our rational mind back with one simple technique.

Ready for it?

👉 Nasal breathing.

That’s right.

In through the nose, out through the mouth.

Even doing this technique for 30 seconds lowers our stress hormones, and brings in the feel good hormones.

We calm the dog, and invite the owl back in.

And when our rational (owl) brains are back online…

We don’t word vomit.

💖 We respond calmly, and strategically to the things that once used to enrage us.

And, the beautiful thing about US being calm is that…

💖 We enjoy more calm and cooperative dynamics at home.

Just like our barking dog triggers others in our lives to get more defensive…

Our calm wise owl influences others to stay calm.

💖 It only takes one person to change a marriage around.

And with this simple, practical and effective tool…

You can enjoy a more comfortable, loving, and peaceful home and marriage.