Do you ever feel so enraged that you just word vomit on your spouse, and stepkids? 🤬
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If this is you, I want you to know you’re not alone.
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And this happens to ALL humans.
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There’s nothing wrong with you.
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And the truth is…when you word vomit…you literally are out of control.
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Picture this:
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👉 In our brains we have an owl, and a dog (credit to the lovely Pam Howard for this analogy).
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The dog’s job is to protect us from danger.
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The owl is very wise and calm.
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But if something scares the dog, the dog starts barking.
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And the owl flies away.
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👉 Translation: when we feel angry, frustrated, enraged…our rational mind has literally left the building.
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BUT
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👉 The good news is as adults… we can bring our rational mind back with one simple technique.
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Ready for it?
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👉 Nasal breathing.
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That’s right.
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In through the nose, out through the mouth.
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Even doing this technique for 30 seconds lowers our stress hormones, and brings in the feel good hormones.
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We calm the dog, and invite the owl back in.
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And when our rational (owl) brains are back online…
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We don’t word vomit.
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💖 We respond calmly, and strategically to the things that once used to enrage us.
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And, the beautiful thing about US being calm is that…
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💖 We enjoy more calm and cooperative dynamics at home.
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Just like our barking dog triggers others in our lives to get more defensive…
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Our calm wise owl influences others to stay calm.
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💖 It only takes one person to change a marriage around.
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And with this simple, practical and effective tool…
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You can enjoy a more comfortable, loving, and peaceful home and marriage.
P.S. Want to know more? I created a free training to help you create better relationships with your stepkids and spouse. It's really good. Click the button below to watch.