We’ve all heard some version of this line before:
“When you marry someone with kids from a previous relationship, their kids will always come first.”
And yet…in our own relationships, we can’t accept this.
If this is you, you’re not alone – and there’s a very good reason why.
It’s simply because the subtext of the “the kids come first” is:
We’re not important
We’re not valued
So of course it’s hard to accept that we’re not valued and we’re unimportant!
No one should even try to accept that.
So instead of compassionately addressing our underlying fears of being unimportant, and undervalued we:
stay late at work.
hideout in our rooms.
make lots of plans to stay busy when our stepkids are home