How to fall deeply in love with your spouse, again

You may or may not know this about me, but I’m madly in love with my two rescue kitties – Pear and Cherry. 

I love the way they: 

• Curl up on my lap while I’m watching TV

• excitedly dart towards their food bowls when it’s time to eat 

• Loudly protest when I go into the restroom without them 

• Squeeze into one tiny cat bed together for hours at a time 

And it dawned on me today as I was yet again listening to their loud meows of thanks at mealtime…

The way I love my cats is also how I’ve been able to stay deeply in love with my husband. 

When it comes to him, I spend most of the time noticing and thinking about how…

• much he makes our 5-month-old giggle 

• comforting it feels to gaze into his big, bright blue eyes 

• he does so many loads of dishes, and pretty much all of the shopping

• dedicated he is to all of his children 

• soft his lips feel against mine 

• Safe and warm I feel in his arms 

I spend very little time thinking about what isn’t working, and what I don’t like. 

And it’s not because my husband is perfect – he’s wonderful! But we all have our flaws. 

I learned that enjoying a more deeply loving bond is a mindset game –

It’s simple, doable, and not even hard with a little bit of practice. 

In fact, you can even start right now if you wanted – 

You can make a simple list of what you already like and love about them. 

Go slowly, and notice how good it feels to focus on why you love them – 

Maybe you love how they brought you some much-needed coffee this morning. 

Or maybe you love how comforting it feels to hold their hand. 

Imagine looking at this little list every day – even for just a few minutes a day. 

Imagine that list growing, as you notice more and more of the good. 

And imagine how, with a little repetition, you’d start to feel so much more in love, simply by noticing more of the good, and less of the bad. 

So, just consider: Falling deeply in love with your spouse all over again is 100% possible for you. 

And it starts with small, simple shifts – 

And with some repetition – 

These small changes turn into a deep, genuine, and lasting love.