Love Being a stepmom: cut your fights in half
Learn to feel calmer on command and stop most heated fights before they start!
Video 1 challenge:
Use the A-B-C technique today!
A: Acknowledge – this is {name the feeling}
B: Breathe – slowly through the nose, out slowly through the mouth {‘Hot Cocoa Breath}
C: Comfort yourself with a simple script:
This is {name the feeling}. This is {name the feeling}
It makes sense. I’m allowed to feel this.
I don’t need to react right now.
I’m OK. We’re OK.
A: Acknowledge – this is {name the feeling}
B: Breathe – slowly through the nose, out slowly through the mouth {‘Hot Cocoa Breath}
C: Comfort yourself with a simple script:
This is {name the feeling}. This is {name the feeling}
It makes sense. I’m allowed to feel this.
I don’t need to react right now.
I’m OK. We’re OK.
Pause to feel the shift in your body.
Notice how well you respond when you’re feeling calmer.
Get clarity on the root cause of 99% of marital fights.
Learn how to appropriately ‘pre-game’ before a prickly discussion (no alcohol needed!).
Video 2 challenge:
Practice pre-gaming when you notice something that feels hard to handle:
First, use the A-B-C technique
Then, ask yourself:
What are the facts?
What are my interpretations?
Bonus question:
If they’re not trying to intentionally hurt me, what else might be going on here?
Use a simple script that’s proven to lower defensiveness.
Learn a loving exit strategy that eliminates all heated fights for good.
Video 3 challenge:
Use this simple script to lower defenses & invite cooperation:
- Soft intro & buy-in
- Share the facts & get buy in
- Use “I” statement interpretation & be willing to be wrong – “I know I’m probably wrong about this but I’m making this mean…”
- Listen & discuss.
- Talk about solutions or use a loving exit-strategy.
I can help you
If you want to:
Feel the happiest you’ve ever felt at home
Feel deeply loved & appreciated as a wife & bonus mom
Enjoy more loving & cooperative relationships with way fewer fights