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summer lovin' fest 2022
Day 1: Stop Most Heated fights before they start
Learn to feel calmer on command and stop most heated fights before they start!
Video 1 challenge:
Use the A-B-C technique today!
A: Acknowledge – this is {name the feeling}
B: Breathe – slowly through the nose, out slowly through the mouth {‘Hot Cocoa Breath}
C: Comfort yourself with a simple script:
This is {name the feeling}. This is {name the feeling}
It makes sense. I’m allowed to feel this.
I don’t need to react right now.
I’m OK. We’re OK.
A: Acknowledge – this is {name the feeling}
B: Breathe – slowly through the nose, out slowly through the mouth {‘Hot Cocoa Breath}
C: Comfort yourself with a simple script:
This is {name the feeling}. This is {name the feeling}
It makes sense. I’m allowed to feel this.
I don’t need to react right now.
I’m OK. We’re OK.
Pause to feel the shift in your body.
Notice how well you respond when you’re feeling calmer.
Day 2: Prepare with Clarity & confidence
Get clarity on the root cause of 99% of marital fights.
Learn how to appropriately ‘pre-game’ before a prickly discussion (no alcohol needed!).
Video 2 challenge:
Practice pre-gaming when you notice something that feels hard to handle:
First, use the A-B-C technique
Then, ask yourself:
What are the facts?
What are my interpretations?
Bonus question:
If they’re not trying to intentionally hurt me, what else might be going on here?
Day 3: Feel Heard & compromise
Use a simple script that’s proven to lower defensiveness.
Learn a loving exit strategy that eliminates all heated fights for good.
Video 3 challenge:
Use this simple script to lower defenses & invite cooperation:
- Soft intro & buy-in
- Share the facts & get buy in
- Use “I” statement interpretation & be willing to be wrong – “I know I’m probably wrong about this but I’m making this mean…”
- Listen & discuss.
- Talk about solutions or use a loving exit-strategy.
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Feel the happiest you’ve ever felt at home
Feel deeply loved & appreciated as a wife & bonus mom
Enjoy more loving & cooperative relationships with way fewer fights