TESTIMONIALS
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"Now my husband and I hardly ever fight."
“Before I met Kristin, I was having a lot of fights with my husband and I was questioning my marriage. My relationship with my stepdaughter was really rocky. We had had this huge fight, and things were never the same. The transition into a shared home was really difficult. I was taking on my family's emotions, and this was really hard. I thought they were all wrong; I thought we should all be happy.
Through working together I learned to stop taking things so personally, and how to separate out my perception from the actual truth. This was a game-changer for me.
Now, my husband and I hardly ever fight, and my relationship with my stepdaughter is getting really good. I feel like this is my home now. I want to be there - I don’t want to avoid it. I don’t try to be late...It feels good all day long, every day.
If you’re thinking about working with Kristin because you're having a hard time in your family, there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s not your fault. It’s totally normal to struggle with yourself and your family. It’s tough to look at yourself and try to work on yourself, but once you understand the toolbox, it’s the most powerful tool in the world. ”
“I went from resentful and contemplating divorce to setting healthy boundaries, losing 15 pounds & feeling happy again.” – Reema
"I feel so much more centered and balanced."
"Before I met Kristin, I was feeling like I had found this wonderful person who I loved but, I was also feeling like I had very little control over what was happening in our relationship, and my role in his family. I was feeling exhausted and overwhelmed and frustrated on a weekly basis.
I had this major sense of guilt because I felt like I was invading someone else’s family. I spent a lot of time people-pleasing, and not really paying attention to what I wanted.
Now, I feel like I always have a choice in how I respond to any given situation. Knowing I have this choice feels really empowering. I am able to enjoy my relationship so much more and not let any of the dynamics with his kids affect me so much. I recognize that I don’t have to fix anyone - neither my partner, nor his kids - nor is it my responsibility to do that.
Overall I feel calmer and more at ease with everything and emotionally, I have far more energy to think about and experience my life. I’m doing things that I love again - like restoring furniture! I’ve been able to put up boundaries around me, and my time and what I want, and no longer feel like I have to always do what my partner and his kids want. I feel so much more centered and balanced.
If you’re thinking about hiring Kristin, I would say just do it. What I’m learning is that being in this role of ‘stepmom’ is not easy for anyone. And, that’s actually one of the main things that’s been helpful to hear- that my experience is common. It helps to know that a lot of the emotions are very normal and to know you’re not alone is really helpful. So the real question is: why wouldn’t you do this for yourself? Why wouldn’t you want to enjoy yourself more? Cope better? Feel better? Kristin does an absolutely fantastic job. She’s incredibly understanding and asks the right questions and has the right tools just for stepmoms. To be able to talk through things, and learn how to feel better without changing anyone else has been life changing for me."
Jude
"We went from threatening divorce to parenting like a team."
"Before I met Kristin, I was struggling with deep rooted animosity. I thought my family situation was unfair, and I felt powerless to change it. I was making my stepkids’ behavior mean something bad about me, and was believing I deserved to be treated poorly. I was arguing a lot with my husband. I felt 100% hopeless, and like nothing would ever change.
In the beginning, I remember Kristin asking me: are you willing to be wrong? Through questions like this that Kristin asked me, I learned to stop personalizing my stepkid’s behavior, and that was such a relief. I learned that I didn’t need them to change in order to feel happier at home and feel like I was doing a really good job. That was really powerful, and freeing.
My favorite tool was tapping. This tool helps me feel calmer in difficult parenting or marriage situations, and helps me get my point across without getting sucked into a power battle or heated argument. It feels really good knowing that I have these tools now, because I can always be in control.
My marriage is so much less strained as a result too - because I am no longer blaming my spouse and his kids for my misery, and I dropped all of the nitpicking I was doing. Now, it feels like my husband and I are more on the same team, and parenting together.
I even asked my husband: “What do you think, has it worked?” He said: “Yes. It’s been life changing.” And it really has! Everyone feels so much better - I was such a ball of anxiety before, and now I know we’re just going to move through the next few years with more openness, and ease and harmony. I can just feel free, and relaxed in my own home.
And, looking at where I was before versus where I am now - I don’t even think there’s a risk when you sign up to coach with Kristin. You will 100% get something out of this. Even if you’re just a little bit open to changing, something good will shift for you. I just wish I had done it earlier. I think that it’s so unbelievably worth the time, and money, and investment into yourself and your family - going from a place of complete hopelessness & threatening divorce to having a more peaceful & loving marriage & home - with way less fighting - it’s worth 10x the money."
Cara K.
“My fiance & I used to fight 3-4 times a week… And now, we’re much happier & calmer.” – Victoria
"I can genuinely say now my husband is my best friend."
“Before I started working with Kristin, I was feeling like I was trapped. I couldn’t handle my anxiety. My life was being controlled by others, and I wasn’t recognizing I was causing my own torment. I was arguing with my spouse all the time, and I thought our marriage was going to end if something didn’t change. And on top of it, I thought I was a horrible stepmom, and too emotional. I was judging myself so harshly.
Now, I embrace who I am, and the things that I struggle with. I know I have control over how I feel and act, and react to things. My life is better, and I’m happier when I just process my emotions instead of judging them. Things that sent me over the edge before...I handle them now with no problem.
With my spouse, I’m more sympathetic to his insecurities and I’m not taking things so personally. Our relationship is better than I thought it could ever be now. I can genuinely say now that he’s my best friend. We are the safest now with each other.
If you're thinking about working with Kristin, honestly what do you have to lose? If you’re already thinking that your life is miserable, and your marriage is falling apart, and there’s no end to this insanity, you have nothing to lose. Even if you still get a divorce and move on, you will still learn how to have a more joyful and peaceful life. This isn’t just something that helps you now. It helps you your whole life!"
"This saved my marriage."
"Before I started working with Kristin, nothing was working. My relationship and communication with my husband were terrible. I had no peace. My relationship with my stepkids was really hard too. I felt helpless and defeated.
I remember during our free consultation, I sobbed the whole time. I was really struggling, and couldn’t even talk without breaking down. Now, I feel empowered. It’s so nice to have the tools to choose how I feel, and respond. And, now when faced with a challenging situation at home, I simply ask myself: how can I deal with this? What tools do I have? And now I have the tools! In a way, these changes have saved my marriage - we hadn’t discussed divorce, but we were barely hanging on, and just getting by.
The techniques that Kristin provides are very effective and very easy to use. These tools have helped me alter my thinking habits, and when you alter your way of thinking, it changes the way you feel, and it affects the way you respond, and react, and it actually creates more positive outcomes for you, and your entire blended family.
If you’re thinking of working with Kristin, please know this: there is hope and your marriage is worth it. Your family is worth it, and you’re worth it. And if you’re willing to do the work, and put in the time, it works."
"I was miserable, and now I feel so much more at peace."
Before I met Kristin, I was pregnant, and I dreaded my stepkids coming home every weekend. I was also really scared about bringing a baby into a miserable family situation. I was really scared of the division between me and my soon to be baby and my husband, and stepkids. I was just struggling with accepting them, and my emotions around them.
Through working with Kristin, I’ve just been able to be a lot more introspective about why I feel the way I do, and why things trigger me. I’m less reactive, and less angry with my husband, with his kids and with myself. I feel much better about bringing my baby girl into this home. We’re truly functioning as a family, even when my stepkids are here. I feel a lot more at peace and more comfortable in my own home, and so much more in control of myself.
If you’re thinking about working with Kristin, I would just say that she’s really able to touch so many different things. And since she’s a stepmom too, it means a lot coming from someone who has gone through it, and is going through it. She’s really able to tap into the root causes of your triggers, and eliminate them for good. She’s always been very safe, warm, and accepting. And, I of course had my hesitations at the beginning but it was 100% worth the investment in myself and my family - I got so much more out of it than I thought I would.
"I feel so much more in control of my life."
Working with Kristin was such a great experience! I appreciated the safe space she created for me to discuss my feelings and some of the struggles I face. She pushed me to think differently, and take control of my emotions, and she did it in such a kind and non-judgmental way. I feel so much more in control of my life because of her coaching. She’s professional, knowledgeable, and a true pleasure to work with. I highly recommend Kristin as a life coach. You will see yourself change for the better because of her guidance.
"My relationship with my husband is so much more relaxed."
"When I first started working with Kristin, I was feeling very resentful of my entire family and situation - even the bio-mom. I was exhausted and had no idea how to make it better.
Through working with Kristin, I went from feeling victimized to feeling empowered, and in control. Overall my relationship with my husband is much more relaxed, and I know he appreciates not being put in between me and his kids. My relationships with my stepkids are better too - I feel more confident in my abilities to interact with them, and more confident in deciding when to disengage on occasion as well.
If you’re considering working with Kristin my advice to you is this: don’t overthink it. It’s such a rewarding experience, and it’s never wrong to realize that you might need a little extra help. Kristin is so patient. She asks all the right questions to help you feel more empowered and in control of your relationships - and it’s amazing how much is truly in your control at home. You don’t have to keep feeling like you’re doing it all wrong anymore. Working with her is so worth it."
"I can't recommend her coaching sessions enough!"
I've had the pleasure of working with Kristin and I can't recommend her coaching sessions enough! She has helped transform my relationship with not only my stepkids, but also my relationship with my husband, as well as my relationship with myself. The tools she works with you on and teaches you help in so many areas of life! She opened my eyes to a lot of things that were right in front of my face but I was unable to see! I'm so thankful I had this experience ❤️ I recommend coaching with Kristin for any and all stepmommas out there!
"I now genuinely enjoy having my stepdaughter around."
Kristin created a safe space where I felt comfortable to open up and face some feelings that I didn't even realise I had, as well as giving me the tools to turn those feelings around to create more peace in my life with my step family. I am better able to manage situations that previously caused me a lot of stress and enjoy the time when my partner's daughter is here. I also felt that as a step mum herself, Kristin really understands where you are coming from. I highly recommend her as a coach!
"Since working with Kristin my life has changed in so many exciting and positive ways."
It was an honor and privilege working with Kristin as a Life Coach. Kristin was very professional, punctual, prepared and present during all of our coaching calls. I was impressed by her thorough knowledge of the coaching process and benefited greatly from her deep listening skills, her comforting words of wisdom and her life experiences that bring so much perspective to her work. I would highly recommend Kristin to anyone looking for a Life Coach! Since working with Kristin my life has changed in so many exciting and positive ways that I could not have imagined. I have launched my own business and am able to use the tools I learned through working with Kristin to live a life of joy, abundance, presence and purpose.
Kristin has a rare talent for providing just the right amount of guidance to empower you."
Kristin provided me with life coaching sessions, and I strongly recommend her to anyone who is interested in making structured adjustments in their life. She has a rare talent for providing just the right amount of guidance to empower you to get to the root of thought or behavior patterns, while laying out a logical path to make meaningful changes. She will provide you with a personalized experience complete with exercises to apply the skills you learn to your daily routines. Wonderful experience!
“I found more compassion for myself & learned to have my own back.” – Renee
“2.5 years later, I still have the tools to stop heated fights before they even start.” – Renee
"I learned how to get my partner to listen better."
“Before I met Kristin, I felt like I had hit rock bottom. I used to feel like the punching bag at home. My stepkids were really disrespectful to me and one another. And my partner was unable to see any of it. After our free call, and our very first session, I was already feeling more capable of making the changes I wanted to see at home. And after several months of working together, I’ve learned how to get my partner to listen better and be more accommodating of my concerns about my stepkids and parenting. I’ve learned how to act like a detective in my own home and figure how to build a loving, authentic bond with my stepson as well as help my partner change his parenting style to nurture better behaviors, and more self-sufficiency in my stepkids. The conversations Kristin and I had were amazing, and working together has been incredibly helpful.” - Virginia, Stepmom of 2
Virginia, stepmom of 2
“I’m not getting triggered. My partner & I no longer have explosive fights…It feels like magic.” – Tanya
"I thought I needed to end my relationship. Now, I no longer feel excluded & jealous."
"Before I met Kristin, I felt like I was at rock bottom. I thought my fiance and I weren’t going to make it because I was so angry and frustrated all the time. I was stuck in fight or flight mode, and never really comfortable in my own skin. We were having really intense fights all the time. I also felt jealous of the relationship my fiance had with his daughter, and felt excluded every time she was there. One of my main coping mechanisms was drinking too much alcohol.
Gaining inner peace, and self-confidence has been my most significant change after working with Kristin. Because even if life isn’t wonderful, I can still function. I am more appreciative and empathetic to my fiance. He’s responding to that, and because of my renewed self-confidence, he’s feeling more attracted to me. We don’t fight very often. We still disagree - but if things do get out of hand, I’m able to calm down and reapproach the situation later. And even now, if we do break up, it won’t be because we can’t stop fighting. It feels so good to say that.
I also took control of when I feel excluded - my stepdaughter hasn’t changed, so I just don’t allow myself to be excluded or feel excluded. It’s so refreshing and empowering & it’s powerful to know that I can feel the way I want to feel without anyone else having to change.
And now, if and when I drink, it’s much less and because I choose to. So this coaching has had a significant impact on my physical health too.
Working with Kristin was well worth the money - so just do it. I don’t regret this one bit. It’s changed my relationships but more importantly, it’s changed me for the better - I’m happier, healthier, and feeling so much more powerful, and in control of my life. So do this for you. My only regret is that I didn’t have Kristin back in my 20s!"
Kendra
"Kristin helped me go from highly anxious to peaceful in my big, blended family."
Before I met Kristin, I was feeling urgent and desperate to fix the dynamics in my big, blended family. And all that did was create a highly anxious and tense family environment. Even small things that happened at home were really big triggers for me.
Through my work with Kristin, I was able to look at the bigger picture, and identify where all my anxiety and desperation was actually coming from. With her guidance, I was able to clearly see that I didn’t need to keep feeling this way.
And my biggest accomplishment now is having the tools to feel more at peace, and grounded at home, no matter the chaos that’s happening around me. I feel so free because I’m no longer getting trapped in these negative cycles of stress, tension, and anxiety. This has been so impactful not just for me but for my whole family. There are 11 people in my house. And when I feel calmer, everyone else gets to relax too, and it’s so much easier for us to all cooperate and navigate our challenges together.
Kristin never once made me feel like I’m worthless at all, and also helped me to gently see how change needed to start with me. If you want to feel more peaceful at home, and also influence the entire dynamics of your family in a really positive way, then this is what you need to do. She will walk alongside you, and hold you accountable in a really loving and compassionate way. Working with Kristin was something I really looked forward to each week - I put in the hard work but it was also really fun. It’s so encouraging to have someone who believes in you, who never judges you - and for this, I’m so grateful. What she’s doing is so important for blended families everywhere.”
Stefanie - mom and bonus mom of 11
"I thought I needed to end my relationship. Now, I no longer feel excluded & jealous."
"Before I met Kristin, I felt like I was at rock bottom. I thought my fiance and I weren’t going to make it because I was so angry and frustrated all the time. I was stuck in fight or flight mode, and never really comfortable in my own skin. We were having really intense fights all the time. I also felt jealous of the relationship my fiance had with his daughter, and felt excluded every time she was there. One of my main coping mechanisms was drinking too much alcohol.
Gaining inner peace, and self-confidence has been my most significant change after working with Kristin. Because even if life isn’t wonderful, I can still function. I am more appreciative and empathetic to my fiance. He’s responding to that, and because of my renewed self-confidence, he’s feeling more attracted to me. We don’t fight very often. We still disagree - but if things do get out of hand, I’m able to calm down and reapproach the situation later. And even now, if we do break up, it won’t be because we can’t stop fighting. It feels so good to say that.
I also took control of when I feel excluded - my stepdaughter hasn’t changed, so I just don’t allow myself to be excluded or feel excluded. It’s so refreshing and empowering & it’s powerful to know that I can feel the way I want to feel without anyone else having to change.
And now, if and when I drink, it’s much less and because I choose to. So this coaching has had a significant impact on my physical health too.
Working with Kristin was well worth the money - so just do it. I don’t regret this one bit. It’s changed my relationships but more importantly, it’s changed me for the better - I’m happier, healthier, and feeling so much more powerful, and in control of my life. So do this for you. My only regret is that I didn’t have Kristin back in my 20s!"
Kendra
"I no longer feel trapped in my own home."
"Before I met Kristin, I was having a really hard time with my stepson - he never listened to me when his dad wasn’t around. And I was taking his behavior very personally. I also had a really difficult time setting boundaries at home, and at the business my partner and I own. I felt frustrated, trapped and, like an outsider in my own home.
Through working with Kristin, I learned how to depersonalize my stepson’s behavior. And that’s really exciting. I can now be open and warm, and effectively discipline him at the same time. I learned so much more about why my stepson acts the way he does all while validating my own needs and emotions.
I also realized I don’t need to save everyone and help everyone - at home, and at work. It’s not always easy to set boundaries, but I don’t feel like I have to make other people happy anymore at my own expense. I no longer feel trapped in my own home. I can let people be who they are, and I can choose to do whatever is best for me at the end of the day.
If you’re thinking about working with Kristin, just know that she will ask you all the right questions to reassess what’s truly going on. For me, it was so refreshing to understand the root causes of my patterns and behaviors, and exactly how I can change them. And honestly, she helped me make the most progress that I’ve ever made in my entire life, and I’m so grateful."
"I feel so much more in control of my life."
Working with Kristin was such a great experience! I appreciated the safe space she created for me to discuss my feelings and some of the struggles I face. She pushed me to think differently, and take control of my emotions, and she did it in such a kind and non-judgmental way. I feel so much more in control of my life because of her coaching. She’s professional, knowledgeable, and a true pleasure to work with. I highly recommend Kristin as a life coach. You will see yourself change for the better because of her guidance.
"I went from feeling desperate, depressed and hopeless to enjoying happiness & peace at home."
"My life was miserable before I found Kristin. I absolutely despised being a stepmom. I hated the ex-wife. I often hated my husband for bringing her into my life and not warning me how hard things would be. I resented everything I did for the kids, all my sacrifices, all my time, it felt like it was pointless. I was contemplating divorce because I didn't think I could handle being a stepmom for the rest of my life. I was hopeless, depressed and desperate!
I went from hating my life, to actually enjoying my role in my family. I went from feeling like an outsider, to feeling like a family unit. And most of all, I developed the coping skills and thought processes I needed to create so much more happiness and peace in my life! No longer do I feel helpless and hopeless, I can now look to the future with excitement. I am in control! I feel powerful.
You will not regret one second of working with Kristin. Kristin will be the best thing you can do for yourself. She is incredible at her job. She's relatable, easy to talk to, kind, firm, creative, and smart. There is no other gift in the world you could give yourself that will be more valuable to your happiness than working with Kristin. I don't say this lightly when I say she truly changed my life."
Kalina, Stepmom of 2
"I feel so much more in control of my life."
Working with Kristin was such a great experience! I appreciated the safe space she created for me to discuss my feelings and some of the struggles I face. She pushed me to think differently, and take control of my emotions, and she did it in such a kind and non-judgmental way. I feel so much more in control of my life because of her coaching. She’s professional, knowledgeable, and a true pleasure to work with. I highly recommend Kristin as a life coach. You will see yourself change for the better because of her guidance.
"My marriage is no longer in crisis. I'm so excited to live the rest of my life this way."
"Before I met Kristin, my marriage was in crisis, and I wasn’t really sure if I could stay in my blended family much longer. I was avoiding going home, and I was avoiding interacting with my stepkids. There was a lot of frustration and yelling, and I didn’t really feel good at all.
Since working together, I have so much more peace with myself, and my efforts, and the situation. The progress I’ve seen with myself and my stepson, and this relationship has improved a millionfold. I don’t even yell at him anymore.
Kristin helped me uncover and release some issues from my childhood, and that really blew my mind. I had been spending most of my life taking responsibility for things that were not actually in my control at all. Once I realized that I stopped feeling so stressed out all the time. I now have a much calmer approach to things and was able to stop taking things so personally. I don’t lose my cool as often. I’m finally free of all the unnecessary emotional burdens I’ve been carrying around my whole life. Things have never been this good for me. I’m finally able to just be myself, and take care of myself a bit more.
My relationship with my husband is a lot better, and I’m not getting upset with him all the time. This has been such a huge shift since I used to just unload on him all the time. Our marriage is no longer in crisis. It feels like we’re equals now, and we work so much better together as a team.
If you’re thinking about working with Kristin, I’d say just do it. It’s not a waste of time or money. The investment is something that could help completely flip the situation around, and be life-changing for you. I’m so excited to live life this way."
"I feel like I'm ready for a second chance."
The most significant change I experienced through Kristin's coaching was that I stopped using my emotions as decision-makers. Kristin helped me dissect and label all the different moving parts of the jumbled mess I felt I was trapped in. When we slowed down enough to pick out the different elements of my situation, I was able to look at each facet in isolation, then reassemble it and find a new understanding about what was really happening in my home and my life. I learned that although emotions are valuable messengers, they are not the best decision-makers. I learned how to discern facts from feelings, and how to use Kristin's "Model" tool to literally transform the SAME situation into a DIFFERENT outcome for myself each time, which in turn, benefits my whole family.
Working with Kristin impacted my relationships by "changing the dance." She taught me new "steps" that had either had never occurred to me before, or I had felt powerless to do before. With these new "steps" I respond differently to triggers. I listen to my family members with a truly open and fearless heart, knowing that no one and nothing can ever take away the agency I have over myself. I meet challenges at the gate, rather than hiding and hoping they don't invade my safe space. This reduces the opportunity for resentments to build against my loved ones. I feel bigger than my wounds now, so I'm not acting out of victimhood anymore, blaming my family members for my own state of misery. I also included my husband in my journey toward healing, by sharing with him the discoveries I was making about myself with Kristin, and asking him to join me in the vigilance it would take to implement these new "steps" until they become automatic. He seems happy to be involved, like I've let him in on a secret mission just for the two of us to conquer together.
I want other women to know that if you choose to work with Kristin, you will receive a unique and perfect blend of "cut the bullshit" with validation delivered inside a layer of loving kindness. You will not be offered a magic pill on a silver platter. Be prepared to earn the solutions to your problems. Kristin's guidance is always on-point. If you are capable of being honest with her and with yourself, you will make great progress. I had searched for someone like Kristin for three years before I found her. Being a Bonus Mom is harder than being a Bio Mom. Blending families is one of the most difficult things I've ever attempted. After completing the 12-week program with Kristin, I feel like I'm ready for a second chance. I'm going back in, and I'm equipped with the tools I need this time.
Bonus Mom Blending Families in Philly
"I feel so much happier and freed up from the victim mentality I was falling into."
The most significant change I experienced was recognizing that I have choice in how I show up in my relationship with my step-daughters. I feel much happier and freed up from the victim mentality that I was falling into. I would tell others that coaching with Kristin has empowered me to take my life back by focusing on my thoughts and the choices I am making vs. focusing on what others are doing.
Northern Virginia Psychologist